Sixty miles west of Boston, Massachusetts there is the small New England town of Sturbridge. Located at the junction of I-90 (The Mass Pike), and I-84 it has become known as the "Crossroads of New England". The town was first settled over 300 years ago, and like other small New England towns it has grown just enough over the years to be in a difficult place today. How do we embrace the future without forgetting how we got to our present? How do we attract the right kind of growth, and maintain who we are? And, what about our culture out here in Central Massachusetts?
These pages will cause one to think about how to protect what we have, our future direction, and how to move on in the very best way.
Those thoughts, and other ramblings, will hopefully inspire more thought, conversation, action, and occasionally a smile...
...seems to be working so far
Friday, July 15, 2011
A Real Thinker This One Is
For 60 years, according to some, the Tantasqua School Committee and the Sturbridge Board of Selectmen have chosen, and appointed a replacement to the School Committee when one was needed. They did this together. 60 years of using a system that worked well for both parties, until it was recently discovered that there there is a law that does not allow this to happen.
So, here are the questions of the day, do the past actions, over 60 years, establish enough of a precedent to supersede the newly discovered law? If an agreement was made between the School Committee , and the Board of Selectmen back then, what were the circumstances around that decision? Is this newly "discovered" law the sole reason behind the Board of Selectmen wanting to stop the current practice, or is there an agenda we don't see? And, speaking of agendas, if this law only recently came to light, who brought it to the attention of the Selectmen? How was it discovered? Why now? Was it always known, and just ignored? What is wrong with the original law, and having the BOS choose the replacement? Has the town been breaking the law for 60 years?
Ok, enough questions for this morning. Pour another coffee, and discuss.
Thursday, July 14, 2011
Time To Chill
Fortunately, those that rant, and make little sense as they do, are few. We can give them their moment at the pulpit, and hopefully they will feel sated, and move on. We can try to tune them out. In the end, when tuning them does little, we need to be a bit more aggressive. This morning I took that route.
This morning I received several comments for the posting submitted regarding the Tantasqua School Committee. Each of the comments were written by the same person. It's obvious. Same lack of punctuation, same syntax, same tone, same anger. This kind of response is not what one would expect from a posting about how a school committee remember is replaced.
There is more to it. These are personal attacks, and the this blog is not the place for that. The opposing views can be worded harshly, but opposing views are expected, and accepted. So, every once in a while, the comment section of a particular posting is closed when I find that intelligent rebuttal has come to an end. On this particular post, the time may have been several days ago, but I waited until this morning.
If you are passionate abut an issue to the point of becoming emotionally overcome by your passion, then use that energy to effect change, otherwise all that energy will continue to build up inside you, and eventually your head will explode.
It's summer, time to chill. Pull up a chair in the shade, invite "Mike" or "Sam" over for a bit, take a deep breath, and let out the demons. You'll feel better, and the perspective you find from the different angle may be the start of a different approach. It is well worth it. You look far better with your head intact.
Monday, July 11, 2011
Sixty Years Of Precedent And A Statute
Sunday, July 3, 2011
Escaping
We are at that place now. Sitting in the Fort Lauderdale International Airport awaiting the only flight on JetBlue back to Hartford. It'll be a while.
Sometimes I wish I could shrinkle up my nose like Elizabeth Montgomery used to do, and instantly transport me and Mary, home, with all of our luggage, in an instant. In a shrinkle.
Most importantly, there is family at home waiting. There are welcome home hugs to give, and get. Grass to mow. Mail to get. Cats to scratch, and plants to water. Photos to share, and stories to tell. Then there is work. Always there is work.
I guess that is okay. Without work, there would not be vacations. Trips without the escape from work are just that, trips. Vacations are true escapes.
This past week we escaped, and no one found us.
Friday, June 24, 2011
Success is Wonderful, But Sharing Your Failures May Be Even Better
Forks in the road.
Taking the road less travelled.
Colloquialisms all, but when you look in the rear view, they were all real places where a decision was made in your life that led you to another place, and then to another. Eventually, those decision GPS directions led you to where you are sitting today. Now for the analogies: that road that brought you to where you are had some bumpy parts, some down right smooth as fresh pavement parts, and some parts that were wash boarded, washed out, and rutted enough to cause you to bump your head more than once.
I took some turns that weren't the best. They took me onto some bad terrain. Some bad land, but I did learn to make better choices. I still am, and I am putting those lessons into practice.
I guess most of us do learn from our experiences, and choices, and change our direction accordingly. I could have done better at times, a whole lot better, but there have been times I have done very well. We've all been told that experience is the best teacher, and I can confirm that. It is just a question of whether or not we will listen to the teacher.
Recently I drove over to the town where I grew up to check on my step-mother. Since my Dad passed away in March, she has been alone, and doing the all the things he protected her from all those years together. Things like doing all the banking, paying the bills, talking to lawyers, and the like. She has done very well. He would be very happily surprised. All those years, watching him, listening to him, and watching the results he obtained was like a classroom. A course in learning to survive by dealing with things to come. She learned very well.
Who'd a thunk it?
After my visit, I called an old friend, I had know since first grade, and I had not seen in years. I asked him if he wanted to get together and grab a bite. It was 11:00 in the morning, and my call had woken him up. He was sleeping in. Really. A fifty-plus year old guy sleeping in till 11 on a Sunday morning. I can't remember sleeping in long, even after a rough night, and there was a time, when I had my share of those. He said grabbing a bite would be great, and asked me to give him an hour.
Okay, an hour it is.
An hour later I arrived at his apartment, I found my way up to his place, and he met me in the hallway. He led me into his modest home. A kitchen, a bedroom, and a bathroom. Modest may not be the right word, but to my old friend, it was home, and he seemed happy. He owned his own company, paid his bills, and made his own choices, and he was happy. That is what counts the most.
We went to a local restaurant that was offering brunch, and ordered a great meal. While we ate, my friend shared some stories of other local old friends that had fallen on hard times over the years, and weren't doing that well in life. I think he was using their bad times as a barometer in which to measure his own life against. Something we all do from time to time.
He prefaced his stories by telling me that their tough times had nothing to do with the current economic climate, and went into detail about what these guys were up against, and it all had a common theme. Poor choices, and bad decisions, something we all make, but the theme here was not learning from the results of those choices. What made it worse was their not knowing how to correct the issue, how to find help, not having the strength to fix things, or becoming so despondent as a result that they became paralyzed. There was a time I was in a similar place. I could feel for those guys, those former classmates, and friends.
After we finished brunch my old friend looked relieved. He had spoken aloud about things that he had only been thinking about for some time. He had received feedback in the form of my head shaking, and mild expletives, and according to his Barometer of Life, he had risen a few points. He was in a better frame of mind than when he was when I called him, and all we did was talk, and have some awesome Eggs Benedict.
I guess the purpose of all this rambling is to maybe stimulate some reflection in you, and in me, as well. Living in the past is never good, but learning from it is what we are meant to do. Otherwise, we will languish back in the day, and never move on to all those adventures we promised ourselves when we were younger.
Yes, we do pay some dues along the way. It's inevitable. We loose jobs. I have, and not by choice. We suffer through bad relationships. Our children will disown us, call us lame, ignore us, and cause us to age four years to every one we actually live. Creditors will call us at some point when we forget a car payment, or the electric bill. Life will always be there, but it is by our choice how we live it, how we respond to it, and that choice will determine how our ride will be.
I guess that is really the whole point. Life will always be there, but it is our choice how to live, and respond to it. It is also our responsibility to share our experiences with those that are in a position to learn from them. That is one reason why we have been blessed with memory, and our children are number one on the share list.
Share your failures, don't hide them. Don't pretend to be perfect. They see right through us. By sharing our experiences, good, and bad, we might just help someone avoid being the topic of conversation at brunch someday.
